Herpes rejection stories

I've had ghsv1 for about 6 years now. I've been single for 2 of those years. I've always disclosed before things get physical.

I've been texting/talking/hanging out with this guy, J, for over a year now. We've been out several times. Mostly he works a lot and doesn't have time to devote to a relationship. So we've been good text friends… like constant every day, and we know each other pretty well.

Within the last couple of weeks, he's cut down hours at work and we saw each other a few more times, which was a big change. This last time we finally made out but stopped before anything else happened.

We made plans to see each other again later that night, and so I disclosed over text because it was looking like things were moving that direction. Hours later, he texted he was just getting up from a nap (to see me as planned), but then he didn't say anything else. That was 2 days ago.

It's hitting me hardddd. He's never been rude or toxic. He's encouraging and sweet usually. I just can't believe that he would ghost me this way. It's just stupid and I'm hurt. That's all. Feels like I lost a good friend and a potential solid relationship. Because of a skin rash.

I was recently diagnosed. I planned on telling my partner about it . I decided to text because I was nervous to tell him in person. I should include that we aren't dating romantically but are rather deeply entwined in a Dom/sub power exchange. We did things we had never done with anyone. Very intense "casual" relationship so to speak.

I was so nervous. But felt it would be okay because of our dynamic. So I began to tell him over text and he got scared of what I was about to say. I told him I wasn't pregnant but it's important I tell him.

He stated he "didn't want to know and just forget whatever this is", then blocked me from his number and unfriended me on Snapchat. I'm honestly shocked. I didn't get a chance to even tell him what was going on.

I really don't know what to think. I'm saddened that I lost my Dominant. This was my first disclosure and it's really fucked my head up.

I tried to do the right thing and I get ghosted by someone I thought would never ghost me! Really has me feeling hopeless about having relationships in the future. I'm coming to terms with my diagnosis but this has me so disappointed. I think I just need to vent.

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I have been talking to this person anonymously on the internet for just a few days. I sent him a message that I have herpes, not because we're going to have sex or anything but he has the right to know, and I told him that if he doesn't want to talk to me anymore or reply to my messages, it's alright and I understand.

He didn't respond to my messages and ignored them, and to be honest I felt hurt but I have to come to terms with the fact.

I want to buy something that'll help me cope but I'm not even hungry and I have no desire to do anything at all. I'm so sad but at least a heavy weight has been lifted off me.

I was diagnosed with GHSV-1 in 2020. I disclosed to someone for the first time yesterday over text (my first time ever with someone that I am interested in dating). They responded back last night and they said that they would like to continue talking to see how things progress.

After sending my reply, I have not heard anything back from them. I honestly done know what to think. I'm not sure if they changed their mind or if they aren't able to reply back to me because of something else.

I want to share my experience with herpes and what I've learned from it. I had never had any outbreaks of any kind so I wasn't worried.

I eventually started dating again and met a new girl I really clicked with. I figured I should tell her before we got intimate. However, she did not take it well, she thanked me for telling her but told me that was the end of our relationship, and she ghosted me.

I was absolutely heartbroken over the rejection, I couldn't be mad at her as she was only trying to take care of her own health, but the experience was very dehumanizing, none of my positive qualities mattered, it didn't matter how kind, compassionate, romantic, attractive, or successful I was, at the end of the day I was nothing more than my diagnosis and that really stung.

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I (m26) was on a third date with this girl tonight and things were going awesome! We were laughing, talking about future plans, as the night came closer to end she asked what my intentions were. I told her liked her and wanted to continue seeing her.

She knew about my previous long term relationship with my ex and asked me if I was ready to dive into another (broke up 4 months ago). I said for the right girl but I was not actively looking to just jump into anything.

I think this put some hesitancy for her and since we were taking about heavy stuff I said she should also know I have hsv2 from my ex. I could see her facial expressions change instantly. But after I finished my disclosure she didn't even acknowledge it??? Just was like oh ok, then went back to other convo. I got turned down after I followed up.

I'm a 31F. I've had HSV2 since 2014. Recently I've gotten rejected because of herpes twice. This last one is really hurting me.

He said he was okay with it after I disclosed yesterday. At first he was hesitant but he said he really liked me and he wanted to be with me and make it work regardless. Now this morning, I'm blocked.

I called private and he answered and I started talking and he got quiet. And I kept saying "hello?". I was literally confused because I thought my signal went out. I Hung up. He also unmatched with me on a dating site.

My feelings are so hurt. I know I shouldn't let this define me but I'm starting to feel like it is. I'm such a beautiful and loving person. But this situation really puts me in deep depressive states.

I love myself but I'm starting to not. How can someone love me with this? How can I even love myself. If I had never gotten this, I think I'd be married already with a family. I just feel so unlovable. I just wanted to vent really. I had to let it out.

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Im a male 20, i was diagnosed at 19 with hsv2. I've never had a outbreak or feel anything bad happen around my area and so on.

Im talking to this girl, good connections, i been taking it slow myself because im honestly in no rush and it's been about two weeks now, and last night was pretty good, we made out for the first time for a bit and she said she wanted to have sex and i said i wanted to wait if that was alright.

It did damper the mood but she said it was alright and she's cool with it. My problem isnt telling her about what i have but her reaction. I want to tell her so if this does become a relationship, we're both safe and hapy and all, but theres also the downside of rejection, and I can handle rejection, im just sad thinking about when i do get rejected.

She's had made a comment and said she doesnt want someone with a disease and im not mad at her, she doesnt know, i just hope it doesnt put a dent in things as im the someone.

I have had genital hsv1 since February of 2021. I really took myself off of the dating market almost that whole time because I needed to recenter myself.

I had a good first date with someone last weekend and we texted each other all week so I decided to just rip the bandaid and disclose. He told me had also gotten cold sores from time to time but that he didn't know much about it and he needed some time to think about it.

This morning he texted me and told me that he thought about it longer and that maybe what he thought were cold sores were really something else and that he had never actually been medically diagnosed with it. And that he looked into it and no matter what mitigation, there would always be some risk and that was something he couldn't accept for himself.

Honestly, he wasn't mean about it. And I told him so that he could make that choice himself. But it doesn't stop it from hurting.

I decided after I contracted HSV2 that I would always disclose to someone I would potentially have sexual relations with. This is because someone passed it to me without disclosing. He continued to have sex with me while he was in the middle of an outbreak... I want to make sure others are given the choice that I was not given.

It's been an emotional journey trying to understand how HSV2 affects my mental health overall and also my body during outbreaks. (Even now I'm still not fully sure wether a twinge or an itch down there is a sign of an outbreak.) Also I hate that the stigma still exists!

For a long time I didn't put myself out there to meet people because I was afraid of rejection. I admit that I am lonely as it's been years since I've had some real physical contact. I decided to be be strong and disclose. It's difficult every time but I am tired of "not living" and allowing HSV2 to hold me back.

Anyway, I have met a few guys in the last couple years that have expressed a mutual interest but when I disclose to them they shy away. The last guy I had meaningful talks with took the time to tell me that he would read up on it and that having HSV2 doesn't define me. I appreciated that but before anything got more serious, he became distant and later told me he needed to focus on other things.

I don't know how much longer I can take this rejection. I'm sure one day I'll be desensitized by it but for now the rejection stings... I can't even just have fun . I don't want to sound discouraging to others who have HSV2.

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